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Need Some Cheering Up :( #breakupblues, page 2
@Call_Me_Godot
Was I wrong for actually deleting his contact? And sending amy message he sends me straight to spam? I am trying not to go crazy ex on him amd stalk his FB wall. So I simply dropped him as a friend.
My friend was out of town so she came in late last night with more pistachio ice cream (she's my heart) and a box of tissues and after that I felt a bit better. Not 1OO% like, at all. But between that and you guys I think I'll live.
How long does one usually stay single? I mean duhhh I know I just broke up, and tbh I can't think of even a quick hook up let alone a full out relationship....But what's the proper waiting period? Lol This guy was only my second bf...
@BloojayLove
You're not wrong for deleting him-from ANYTHING. That's your choice and if disconnecting yourself from him makes you feel better then do it.
As far as the single thing goes, that depends on you. I know for me, if I break up with someone after dating them for more than five months, I average at least three to find someone new (like a legit relationship and not just hook ups or flirting). But that's also because I'm bad at flirting and meeting people. I know one of my friends aims for a six month down time period (a bit excessive in my opinion but it's all that persons decision).
Really everything comes down to what you feel comfortable with. This is all about you now.
@BloojayLove
i don't think theres a set period - yes you'll be in a strange grieving stage for a bit but if you happen to skip by someone and find that they're really awesome quicker than you expected just go for it.
@Call_Me_Godot
@girlalmighty
I feel so weird. Like in all the songs it's like, "You left me but I am better without you". But that isn't how I feel. It's like I am the bottom half. I had so much invested into this fucking relationship. Soooo much smh...
And now I wanna go out and find someone new, but I know it would only be to use him to get over my break-up. And I don't wanna be a bitch like that. So for now I am just that sad cat lady people make fun of.
Ughh I feel so whiny. Am I being irratating? Honest answers lolol
@BloojayLove
No you're being human.
hooray for crazy cat people.
at least you're being mature about the situation.
I say kudos. Just chill, relax and enjoy singledom.
@girlalmighty
That awkward moment when you read his wall and his relationship status is changed to with some other bitch. I should've known. I wonder how long he fucked her before breaking up with me!! Ughhh that kiss infuriates me then! I shoulda kept his shit just so I could burn it! Why does he pull shit like this?? Why tell me that if you knew...ooohhh he knew..was he pulling one on me?!? Why was I so stupid? Who is she?!?! These are all stupid questions you wouldn't have an answer too but Damn I need to vent!! Ughh
@Call_Me_Godot
I need a hug. I am crying again. Trying to find my happy place and not get faded (it's beckoning though)...
Am I that stupid? I should've known! There are pics of the two of tyem dating back to February!! What the fuck....I don't know whether to laugh or cry. It's hilarious how infatuated I was! Dinner dates and spontaneous road trips! Aha! Right! My ass I am so stupid like why did I even go there with him if he knew what he was doing and lied right to my fucking face and had no problem fucking a hoe while he was with me and did that bitch know because ughhh if they are together he sure enough wasnt faithful when he kissed me yesterday and hes been livin with me recently i wonder if she knows who i am but she must because our relationship statuss had eachothers names AHHHHH I AM SO FUCKED UP
But maybe it's a misunderstanding. He's probably just confused about his parents and the responsibilty of watching his sister while her custody arrangement is being sorted. I don't know if I could withstand the pressure. He's probably just hurting. And that kiss was probably his way of saying we will work it all out once his life get's settled.
Should I text him? Maybe he just needs to talk. I should be here to support him, right?
@BloojayLove
Don't text him. Don't fall into a trap. I know it's probably hard to hear that but he KNEW what he was doing and NOTHING happening around him clouded his judgment. From what you've told me and from what I've read you're much better off without him. DON'T, DON'T, DON'T fall into the trap of feeling pity and empathetic towards him because of was going on. He's an adult, he's a human being and he SHOULD have known better.
You're not stupid. Nor were you ever. If anything, she just seems like an 'easy access piece' he was able to blow off steam with and something new and exciting which believe me (from my history and the history of friends I have) never lasts long.
DON'T TEXT HIM!
DON'T MAKE ANY CONTACT WITH HIM.
If he does contact you, refrain from replying back straight away.
Make it clear that you're capable of being your own independent self without the need of another person.
I doubt the kiss he gave you was as you put it "his way of saying we will work it all out once his life get's settled" people go through shit all the time and I believe (personally) relationships are there and you go through thick and thin with that person because you want them in your life.
You're better than all this drama babe.
BETTTTTTTEERRRRRRRR!
Repeat - better!
@girlalmighty
Better. I'm better. I need sleep. And some help. Like I need to re-visit my counselor before I relapse (I have a teensy weensy depression disorder. Haven't relapsed in like two years). And I am so glad I have you guys. You don't even know! So much of my idenity was wrapped up in him. He was who I'd consider my other half man...
But I'm better. It will be better. Pistachio ice cream. Tumblr. Quilt. Cats. Netflix. Sleep. Repeat. :( I feel lonely.
@BloojayLove
You have us! Don't feel lonely. It's all normal. It will pass.
As you've said - you're better.
Your condition may be a playing factor into why you're feeling this way as well.
Sleep.
Relax.
Eat.
Pet cats.
Spend hours on tumblr.
DO WHAT YOU NEED FOR YOUR BENEFITS BEFORE ANYONE ELSES!
@BloojayLove
Don't talk to him. Don't text him. Don't trust him. Don't reach out to him. I had the same shit happen last December (2013, not December six months ago). Don't waste another minute on this tool because one day he's going to realise he fucked up and you're going to laugh in his face.
As for the girl, don't trust her either.
As for YOU. Like I said this is your time. Do whatever you need to do (like punch a motherfucker in the face and walk away like nothing happened). Eat, sleep, and binge on something stupid like the Trailor Park Boys on Netflix or anime. Find someone to party with. Delete him from your life. (Obviously) it'll be a while before you're comfortable again but nonetheless, you do what you need to do FOR you
@Call_Me_Godot @girlalmighty
Yeah. I actually managed to function today. My broken shit self hopped in the shower and ate real food. I also got outta my pajamas, and that for me is a like a major accomplishment. And my sister asked if I wanted to stay with her and her little family while I recover (probably so she can keep an eye on me). It's just, I am not crying anymore.
Still broken as hell? Yeah. But bawling my face out? No.
I need to stop second guessing myself. Like "Oh Denim, you're moving on too fast..." But then I am like, "Bish he has another girlfriend! Taking a shower is not moving on too fast."
It's only when I talk to myself that I realize how crazy I really am lol :P
@BloojayLove
That's just the way it works XD you feel stupid for crying. Then you get pissed and wanna be a bitch. Then you feel annoying for reaching out to someone. Then you feel numb. Then you try reasoning with yourself and realise while you're being silly it's all okay. Shit happens and you'll move on :P like I said everyone's replaceable so it'll be easy to find a new one but since the wounds still fresh it's still okay to be sensitive.
But showering is good! (Hell even without problems I sometimes lack the motivation to shower) Sweat out the stress lol indulge yourself and hang out with your sister. Go out with your friends. Party. Anything you'd normally do to relax is even better to do now :D
There's literally so much I could just go off about right now >.> but you should do whatever YOU think you should do.
I'd try avoiding him for a bit. Just chill out and figure out what you want. Cry it out. Sob to your friends. Try fingering what you want to do. And whenever you're ready either talk to him (if that's what you want) or just drop him like a sack of rotten tomatoes and find someone else.
Just relax. That's the best thing you can do at the moment. (especially if you're crying so much you retch >.> been there. Googled it. That's a thing)
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