What would you do?

Hi everyone :) I'm back sort of (still trying to find some time to write)

So as people who may have been around here like 1-2 years ago may know I ended up getting pregnant after a stupid drunken mistake with my best friend. By the time I found out I was out of options. I probably waited too long to tell him cause he came home from college with a fiance. Now this all would have been fine but he originally told me in a big blow up fight that he didn't want anything to do with our three beautiful now 18 month old triplets (I know I got screwed three times over (sort of they're kind of my world and I love them to death)) But now that he's getting married in a month all of a sudden he's decided he's talking to me for the first time in a year and he wants to be a dad now. I told him that it was too late and he keeps threatening to sue for custody. I don't really have any problem with him, he's fine, but his fiance is a bitch and has multiple times called my children ugly or suggested to Justin that I'm a tramp and he needs to get a paternity test. I'm afraid what kind of treatment they're going to get if Justin gets even partial custody. So am I being a total bitch for saying no?

(btw sorry for ranting I just needed to rant to someone who doesn't know him)

-Cass

@shutyomouth

oh god. No you are not a bitch for saying no in any way. If he decides to do something you could always express how you feel to a lawyer or judge. Most of the time they side with the mother and if he hasn't been around at all I'd say you have a pretty good chance at keeping them and him just having visits- if that. Hell he might have to pay child support. You can also get it to where it's watched visits. But he should have made a better decision in the beginning of everything. And don't say you waited too long to tell him, he should have made the more mature decision when everything was happening. Not almost two years later.

@shutyomouth
I agree with the comment above. Call a lawyer and just ask what the outcomes are, just so you're prepared if it does get legal. Try talking to him one-on-one and tell him you want to make it work. Be calm. The more calm you are, the more he will be willing to compromise.
If this does get legal, there is a very good chance the court will side with you. For the first two years, you've done everything by yourself without him. He can't just jump back into your life like this and all of a sudden expect you to give him what he wants. The best you can do for now is try to continue what you are doing with your children. If you stress too much, it won't do anyone any good.
Good luck. If you need anything else, feel free to PM me :)