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I need advice.
@sugarcube.
Anxiety, sleeping too much and panic attacks - I feel for you.
It's hard when our minds start to respond differently. Panic attacks are awful and they can really be scary, have you been advised any breathing techniques for that? Inhale deeply for 4 seconds and exhale for seven.. keep doing it in the shape of a rectangle. The short sides are inhaling the long ones are exhaling - I guess you can tell I've been in a similar situation tell yourself.
Anxiety, god this one creeps up on me every now and then. It's easy to just hide behind excuses and escape the reality of facing our fears. Fearing something can be broken - I never believed that before. It's all about taking little steps and one day and a time.
The morning of getting ready to go:
Tell yourself you are in control and you will do as much as you can. Even if you go to school for half the day, or just the morning - build it in stages. We often fear of doing something but then once we are doing it, it never seems as bad. It's getting over stage one of the initial panic that's the hardest.
Reward yourself once you've done something. It's okay to feel a little messed up but slowly tear that anxiety away and throw those negative thoughts out of your head. Breathe. Try again.
It won't be a miracle, you won't just wake up one day and be able to conquer it all. But it's a step forward not backwards.
Anxiety is a condition and so is Depression. Depression is tiring and daunting. Can you try setting an alarm? Getting up around the same time every morning could help as too much sleep can just make you more tired. It will be hard at first breaking your pattern but could work wonders for you.
I don't believe in medication, not for me anyway. I know there is a chemical unbalance hence why depression triggers but I think it's all about controlling your mind all and understanding that it's okay to have shit days - as long as it's not everyday. Councelling is okay, you talk they listen.
But I like writing. Sometimes I've written down how I feel in a letter. Then I'd go back to it and would read it as if someone is calling out for help and I write back - it's amazing how we can give advice bit hardly take it. This is a good way to break that.
Hope you're OK. And yes all families have issues - we can't choose them eh? ;)
I hope I haven't bored you but if you need to chat give me a message. Don't struggle alone xx
@sugarcube.
For your grades, i would definitely say pick up on line classes. Most schools still let you participate in school activities and extra curricular things, such as the swim team even if you are doing school online. Just talk to an administrator at school.
For the sleeping, you should start setting alarms, making a daily schedule of things to do to stay somewhat busy during the day. It might sound dumb but sleeping too much makes you tired- i was the same way, i slept so much when i woke up i would just go right back to bed. Try to only get 7-8 hours of sleep a day, sleeping a little less will help more than you might think.
To me, therapist don't help. I've been to 8 different ones. (no, im not crazy, i just have my own family problems and a bad past) Nonetheless, we are two different people and might feel differently about them, which is fine. If you feel like they help, make an appointment to go see one and you might feel better once you let everything out. Sometimes talking to someone who wont judge you and wont go back and tell anyone what was said can make the situation more comfortable.
Another easy thing to do, make a journal, and everyday write two things about yourself that you like, two things that made your day a good day and then one thing that made it a bad day and how you can fix it or avoid it. -- This really helps more than you might think, it helps keep depression low and makes you feel better. Over time you might not feel so sad and worn down, go back and read everything. (I'm not gonna lie, it gets real hard to find things about yourself that you like- and im not talking about the length of your hair, but if that makes you happy, go for it.)
Anxiety is more of something you have to take slower. You need to think positive, and when i say 'need' i know it can be hard. Breathe more, sometimes you need to let things out to get past them or maybe even cry about something that you are stressing over. Somethings might be bigger to you than to others. ( like you not being able to go to school ) some people might think thats dumb but you know whats best for you and if you cant handle it, you cant handle it. Dont be pushed to just go right back into school, take it slow, infact take everything slow but take it to the mind.
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Thank you both so so much!! I really appreciate it, honestly. I will definently use both of your advice ❤
I usually try to keep to myself on this site and just write my stories and such, but I really need help. This is one place where I don't have to worry about gossip and such so yeah.
Okay so I'm in high school and I had this problem last year with my anxiety where I stopped going to school for an entire month, and ended up moving to Virginia with my aunt and uncle. I loved living there, but not with them because they're basically just horrible people.
Anyway, I'm back where I live (California), and I'm in tenth grade and the year was starting off perfectly. I made varsity swim team, I had a 4.0 GPA and I have a small group of friends, but no drama and we all get along.
Around November it was like I hit a wall and I just started getting these horrible panic attacks and stopped going again. It's January and I've only been in school for a total of two weeks since November. My swim coach is worried about me and now I have a 1.4 GPA. It's the end of semester and grades are due in two weeks and I'm just freaking out.
Every morning I try to go, but I freak out and my parents don't know what to do either. I can't go back to Virginia due to some family issues now, and I need to go back. I've seen a therapist, taken medication and nothing is working. I'm really trying to get out of this funk I'm in because I don't want to stay cooped up in my room.
I do have a lot of family issues, but who doesn't? I'm sleeping for 12-16 hours a day and I'm just dying. I want to go back to swim and get my grades up (to at least passing). Does anyone have any advice?
Sorry for the long vent...
1/18/17