Question time (Non 1D Related. Sorry people)

This is just a Vent Question. Feel free to answer it if you want:

I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and lately he's been getting annoyed because we've not been seeing each other, or I've been making plans with my male friends (Who are mostly all taken. I have six male friends: Two of whom are gay, one's bi and the others all have girlfriends)

I want to point out that he hasn't bothered to make any plans with me, AT ALL in the past two weeks even though I have asked countless times if he'd like to spend time with me. Whenever I ask what he's doing he says he doesn't know, then he asks me to meet up with him when it suits HIM not the both of us (I'm a teacher in the UK. I teach the afternoon class from one till three then stay behind school and plan lessons)

He's either jealous because I'm spending time with male friends, or he's nagging because we don't see each other.

Please help me. I asked this in that Yahoo Answer and got no helpful response

@Hi_We'reOneDirection

You both have friends and things you want or need to do but you both also need to make each other a priority so, yall don't end up splitting up or something because of not seeing each other enough.

I think you two should reserve a night or two out of each week just for each other. To go out somewhere or to just be together.

&& the male friends, he will just have to get over, i'm sure he has female friends too. To help you might want to all go out to eat so he can see that your male friends mean no harm- having males as friends is not a crime so do as you please.

If he continues to act -stuck up- i believe you should just forget about him and find someone who doesn't waste your time, someone who you know will let you have space, or will at least reason with you.

Hope this helped!
l.b.

@leighbear28

Oh he has female friends alright. And I'm totally fine with it, I don't understand why he'd be so upset with me spending time with my friends when most of them have been in my life over ten years (One of the friends I've met is quite recent. I'd say I met him about four years ago)

Thank you for your input lovely. It made me feel much better

@Hi_We'reOneDirection

It's no biggie- hope it helped!

@Hi_We'reOneDirection

I hope what I'm going to say doesn't sound harsh, but here's what I think.

I'm a firm believer that your value in somebody's life is determined by their actions; not by their words or something else. If they truly value you, they will make an effort to show you that. On that note, I think this person doesn't know your worth. Fortunately enough, I've never been in this sort of relation with someone, so I can not say much about it.

As for hanging with the male friends; I don't think that's much of a deal. Everybody has friends, and the friends you have are the ones YOU choose to have, no one else can have a say in it.

Now, it could be that he's upset because you two don't get to spend time together, and you get to hang out with your other friends. In this case, you lot really need to sit and talk, otherwise it could get worse. If he doesn't make plans to go out with you, ask him to at least give an appropriate reason, he cannot just go around not making any effort and then be annoyed.

On a side note, I would never want a guy who's just effortless, like an ass ;)

I really hope it works out for you. Take a day to talk to him, it can help.

Have a nice day/night !
-Z