Advice?

I swear I'm not an attention seeker, I just need advice. I know I'm not the only person who has mental issues such as depression and anxiety, ect. Well I suck at coping with both of those things. For example, I ditch school and I smoke to get my mind off things, I just need some help or advice on how to cope.

Anyone?

@sugarcube.
Message me if you'd like! I'm a psych major and whilst I can't give medical advice I can at least he someone to talk to with no judgement on the perspective x

@cherokeerose

That would be so wonderful! Thank you so much, I'll message you later because I'm at a dinner right now ,xo

@sugarcube.
No worries love! x Enjoy dinner.

@sugarcube.
It sounds dumb but listen to the Used if you're that tore up. Until I found them, I seriously thought I was just fucking crazy because I didn't know other people could feel like that.

As sick as it sounds, write your goodbye. I've written suicide note after suicide note but I never do anything with them because A-I bawl through the writing and by the time I'm done I'm too exhausted. B-it's been psychologically proven that writing down bad shit and throwing it away kind of perks you up. You're taking the trash from you're mind and kicking it out.

Do NOT keep a journal. I kept a journal for six years and it made me feel like SHIT. Not the journal but what I'd write. The problem with journals is you write EVERYTHING. So whenever I'd want to forget something, I absolutely couldn't because it was always right there in my face glaring back at me and saying "hey remember that one time!"

Find something else to focus on. I hate talking to my friends about my problems but I'll help them all day long with theirs. And as long as I can hold their hand and guide them through whatever they need, then I'm more than likely too busy to care about what I need. I get obsessive with advice giving (....obviously >.>)

Elliminate toxic people and understand when you've reached your limit. If you're trying to get out of this slump and someone's holding you back either talk to them or avoid them. Be it an ex or a stubborn best friend just tell them "I have my own shit to deal with and you're not helping." And don't let them convince you to do anything that'll trigger you. A lot of my depressive cycles turn into rage but I know when I'm in a hole and I know when I don't want to drink with my friends because I'll go home and do something stupid.

Most people are going to tell you not to numb yourself but I say go for it. Turn on a little Iron and Wine, smoke a bowl with someone and just chat. Grab a drink and draw on the walls. Have a cigarette and go for a walk. Stay in bed till twelve. Take an hour long shower. Watch Scooby Doo under a big fuzzy blanket and don't answer the door, the phone, or even the cat. That's about all you can do until you determine if the root of your problem is an outside force or an internal thing.

@Call_Me_Godot

Okay let me start of with a huge thank you because you aren't telling me to stop smoking and all that. Your advice is great and I'm planning on using it, thanks for bullshit too, your advice was jut straight to the point. I hope things get better for you soon

I can't even tell you to smoke because i do too, well mostly cigarettes but still so that would be kinda fake.

anyway, the others are right, what i used to do when i was feeling depressed was that i'd write even thing making me feel down and when I'd be finished i would tear it apart, light it up and throw it in the trash. It really helped.

What I would do too is go out and get drunk but that probably won't solve your problems. Though if you feel comfortable, you can tell your closest friends or whatever and they will, i think, try to help you and make you feel happy.

but you know, i think you live all your life with anxiety and depression, it's just that for some people it's more difficult to cope so they react less well than others. I don't think we can really do anything.

anyway, hope you'll be less depressed at some point of ur life and on that joyful ending, i say bye!

@onedirectionsprincess6

Thank you :) I hope things are good for you, and if not then hopefully get better for you soon

Is everyone in this thread feeling better?

@mspippa

I am, thank you.

@sugarcube.
Things have been fine lol I just recently found out there's like a 90% chance I'm manic depressive so obviously I go through cycles and sometimes knowing what's up just makes you feel better. And the ONLY time I ever tell anyone to stop smoking is when I've got a cig and they know I'm joking XD my boyfriend and I smoke like chimneys, plus he's a beer pong champion and I get rid of my weed-induced cotton mouth with vodka :D we like to keep it classy.

But I'm glad it was helpful :) I've been in that "why the Royal fuck do I even exist" hole and sometimes the best thing that can be done is just waiting it out.

And it's good stuff's looking up ;P keep it that way lol