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Made a Big Mistake need a little advice
@shutyomouth
My first question- how old are the both of you? Because that can determine whether or not this will turn into prolonged high school drama or if this is like a life thing that's going to have a bunch of adult decisions and crises (ie high schoolers call each case other whores then graduate and hate each other forever where someone who's like 30 is going to evaluate everything and still struggle regardless of what choice they made).
Second- how does he feel about her? If he knows she's a bitch then there's a better chance he'll here you out and ditched her (again unless you're in high school because then he'll probably deny your existence).
This is assuming you want to keep the baby and tell him when he gets out of ICI... sorry if I sound negative I just wanna have a detailed story before throwing out suggestions.
@Call_Me_Godot
No worries about sounding negative I get it. I wish it was some stupid high school thing but we're both 19. But he's off at college most of the time and I just got fired so I'm job hunting.
I'm not sure about him and his girlfriend. He knows we.don't get along so he respects that and doesn't talk to me about his relationship but all I know is when he was in his accident she came running and is actually being half nice.
And I have to keep the baby I think because of strict laws here ( plus I don't believe in abortion) I feel like I should tell him I don't know how he'll take it.
@Call_Me_Godot
No worries about sounding negative I get it. I wish it was some stupid high school thing but we're both 19. But he's off at college most of the time and I just got fired so I'm job hunting.
I'm not sure about him and his girlfriend. He knows we.don't get along so he respects that and doesn't talk to me about his relationship but all I know is when he was in his accident she came running and is actually being half nice.
And I have to keep the baby I think because of strict laws here ( plus I don't believe in abortion) I feel like I should tell him I don't know how he'll take it.
@shutyomouth
I agree with godot and what she's written so far.
Exactly what are the law's in regards to abortion where you live? I'm pro-choice so whatever you decide to go with understand that a lot of people will both support and hate the idea of, but please, please, please - I can't say this enough - think all your options through carefully.
What you want now and what you think you might want are two very different things.
Okay, now to the rest of it; you're obviously going to have to tell him. With the kind of news you have; it's going to be hard to keep it a secret without someone cluing on. If he's your best friend; he'll understand - that's what best friends do. Of course, he might be a little shocked at first and upset or angry but once the news settles in this will change. 19 years of age would mean that the two of you have your heads screwed on pretty damn well - I'm sure as adults you could both handle this and come up with a solution.
@shutyomouth
Just talk to him - I don't mean to cut in with the comments; but it seems if anything is going to eventuate from your situation you and your bestfriend will have to sort it out. Just bite the bullet; the worst that could happen is that he gets a little upset but you guys are bestfriends... and friends always work things out.
As for the girlfriend; don't even both with her. You've got better things to focus your energy on at the moment :)
@shutyomouth
Obviously you need to tell him (whenever you find the time) and just wait for him to react. It's better to own up than have stupid shit happen just because you didn't say anything. If the girlfriend hates you then it's whatever. As for him, it goes two ways. A-he flips shit and obviously you don't need him. B-he gets it, he's your friend, he supports you.
This whole thing is pretty tricky and the best I can do is tell you to improvise and go with your gut Hun.
Hey everyone so I figured it was probably time for an update I haven't been on here in ages. Pregnancy totally hates me I look like a bloated elephant and pickles and ice cream really shouldn't be eaten together. But hey apparently the stork decided that giving a teenage single mother double mom duty would be funny.
So I didn't end up telling him for a while. Justin found out I was pregnant over thanksgiving break but I didn't tell him it was his because he brought his girlfriend home with a diamond ring on her finger. But over Christmas break we got into a big fight and the truth just kind of came out. Apparently now he 'needs space to think.'
If you guys could continue to send good thoughts my way it wouldn't hurt
(By the way there's one good thing I finally found a job and one where I get to sit all day)
@shutyomouth
Hey! Sorry for kinda jumping into the convo lol My grandma (retired) and my mom are OBGYN's plus my aunt is a Physician's Assistant, so the strange interest in the female reproductive system kinda runs in my blood ;)
How far along were you when you found out that you were pregnant? Are you in your second trimester yet?
And I'm so sorry things are turning out this way! Almost sounds like story material the way your life is playing out. :( But as a fellow sister who's had a pregnancy (mine was a scare) ruin a relationship, I feel you.
P.s. Baby talk also gets me very excited so feel free to PM me :) And it's good to talk about life. Also, I could probably give you a boring recital of why your body craves what it does lolol ;) ;) #mylifeisbullcrap
@JustBloo.
No problem jump on in. I was about 13 weeks in when I found out I had just assumed I was late because I've dealt with eating disorders and other things. I'm well into my 2nd trimester now (24 weeks) and I'm kind of excited :)
I'd actually considered writing something similar as a story but I think my hormones might make it sound a little weird. And sorry about your scare (I hate scares I had one several years ago).
And sure I'm not the most comfortable with baby talk (part of my brain is still in denial that I'm pregnant) but it would be nice to talk. (I'm starting to thing of names now *squeal*)
@shutyomouth
I'm glad your excited! I'm sure it's scary as hell but also kinda cool knowing you are carrying life inside of you :)
I think it would be a cool story. We need something a little more realistic on here. I'd read it though. Sounds like it would be good.
And I won't force you to chat if you don't want to. But it is nice to chat every once and a while do de-stress, vent, and even toss around sone possible names :D
Well now that I'm writing this it's a little hard to get out but ummmmm so my best friend and I have been really close for a while now and about a week ago he go in an accident and ended up in the ICU. Well when I was visiting him I passed out and found out that...........i'm pregnant.
Problem is there's only one guy I've been with in the past couple months and it's my best friend in some stupid drunken mistake we were trying to forget about. (Especially since he was dating (and still is) his girlfriend who completely hates me.)
So I don't know what to do and I don't really have any girls to talk to but I'm kind of sick to my stomach about keeping this to myself so yeah.........
10/16/15