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How to create the perfect first date
@Waving_Snail
wow; you're advice is so sincere. the advice my sister gave me was that if a guy was to ever make a move I wasn't happy with, she'd send her mates down to bash him :/ *talk about protective families* but I completely agree with your don't do dinner thing!
do an activity which you can talk about. dinner means you can only really talk about food, something like paintball or the arcade or ya know.. means you can talk about this super cool trick you learnt, or how good he/or she/or you are at something, and you can laugh about stuff if things go wrong and you can always use it as a test to see what the other person is really like in a relaxed setting!
@PaperHearts!
RIGHT? I mean, someones true colors comes out when there under a hell of a lot of pressure, and nothing in the whole entire universe will make you more anxious than in an arcade on your last guy about to beat the boss level. And, and just watch the fear and stress on their face, like the game is a ghost, lol, let THAT determine if you want to hang out with that person again, not the fact if they can pronounce their dinner correctly.
@Waving_Snail
AMEN TO THIS!
other awesome suggestions include: a sporting game of some sort (especially if you're both fiery), bowling, escape rooms (like the ones you get locked in and then have to get out of by solving riddles), ghost tours (arghemm... *hold my hand/oh don't worry baby nothing will hurt you when I'm around*), museums, hiking, fishing etc.
I get where you're going with this but I just disagree with all of it. This sounds like an agenda. I don't like schedules lol my first "date" with my boyfriend now was basically "let's just wander around and see what there is to do" which is what we tend to do anyway, together or with our friends. Do you really want to go out with someone who brings out a list saying "we're doing this at this time and that at that time" while reminding themselves to be confident? I'd rather just meet up and see what happens. Then you can find out how creative (or not) that person is, if you're willing to hang out with them even when you're bored, see if you have common interests (just by agreeing or disagreeing with suggestions), and so on. Dating really isn't THAT hard or complex XD
@PaperHearts!
oh most definitely ghost tours. where Im from, we have something called fright night which is a huge event with a haunted hay ride, a hunted house, a clown thing, i think some years they still have the haunted maze but people couldn't find their way out in time for closing so I think they don't do that any more.... Oh and to celebrate the walking dead show and the festival, they have a mini-festival before the fright night all about zombies. Its cool place to have a first date because there is always something to do and talk about!
@Call_Me_Godot
I totally get what your saying, and that is a wonderful way to go about it too, what I wrote was just in my perspective and some tips I would have wanted to know. I guess I should have been more clear about this being a little more biased than it should have been, sorry about that. But keep in mind that this is also just to spark Ideas to the girls reading this so they can tweak this to fit them. But I understand, everyone has different dating styles that work ether for them! ;)
@Waving_Snail
That's not a problem :P its your string anyway. I personally just prefer having a smoke and being one of the guys but I also have friends that like the cutesy and romantic park picnics (if grabbing pizza and eating it at the duck pond is a picnic then I guess o kinda do too XD). But your advice is actually really good for people who might get bored easily or need some variety since you can only do the same thing so many times before it gets old
@Waving_Snail
@Call_Me_Godot
I like Godot's ideas as well.
Sometimes the best of 'dates' are just chilling with friends and seeing where the night unexpectedly goes.
@PaperHearts!
Yes, I do agree, But like i said, I have a short attention span and hate awkwardness, this is just my away to try to avoid that! Lol but in reality, its just what is best for you!
@rosepetal
Just remember the conversation above and you should be fine. If you want ideas on where of hat to do, I suppose a double date would ease the awkward tension, so If you want to go out to dinner you guys can, but if your looking for something more action pact you can do this- I just did this with my best friend a few weeks ago, yes it is incredibly unorthodox but you can cut corners and ease it up to any degree you want. At around evening you can go to your local city and window shop, but with a little twist, comment shit things about the outrageous things people advertise- its a stupid thing to do, but I swear i had the best time.
I suppose you would also do challenges at home. for example, the cinnamon challenge, the hot sauce challenge, ice bucket challenge. Those are always fun and a great way to showoff your adventurous/funny side!
PART ONE: THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING YOUR FIRST DATE
The number one thing to keep in mind through out the first date is to have a good first impression, and there is no other way to do that than to be confident! If you have insecurities, do what helps me, look in the mirror and complement yourself. Tell yourself what you find beautiful about your physical and inner you.
When your going to meet your date, walk in the scene with a genuine smile, be sure to keep your shoulders high and establish good posture, and sway your hips when walking. These three things are a excellent way to show confidence and power as a women.
NEVER EVER NEVER FOREVER LOOK AT YOUR MOTHER FUCKING PHONE, NO MATTEER HOW AWKWARD IT GETS! Its disrespectful and shows you have no interest in meeting your date, it also shows signs of insecurities (THAT YOU WANT TO AVOID AT ALL CAUSTS) that your too afraid to talk and you would rather just hide behind your cellphone screen. DONT BE AFRAID OF YOUR DATE, GODDAMNIT.
Don't have too high expectations because then your setting your self up to be disappointed more easily
Don't try so hard, be casual, act and believe in yourself that you actually want to be hanging out with your friend's friend's brother(or sister). This can also show insecurities WHICH I CANT STESS ENOUGH A GIRL SERIOUSLY NEEDS TO AVOID!!!
When talking with your date, do not stutter, BE A STRONG WOMAN! Don't be afraid of your date, show him or her that you can rely to a comment like a friend that they've know forever. This is such a turn-on for all kinds of people! Remember, its the little things like this that will want him or her meeting with you again!
DO NOT LEVEL DOWN TO YOUR DATE IF THEY CAN'T HANDEL YOUR CONFIDENCE! The best things in life are worth working for, so don't make yourself easy just to please your date. PICK YOUR FINE ASS UP AND LEAVE HIM/HER FOR SOMONE THAT CAN APPRECIATE YOUR SELF-LOVE! You don't need haters in your life girlfriend.
PART TWO: DOING SOMETHING
Going out to a fancy dinner? Don't settle for a cleshé! To be honest, I feel anyone would rather be doing a fun activity than sitting in a boring restaurant with nothing to talk about other than the boring job you work at. UGG, THE WORST! Gurl, your just setting yourself up for a painfully awkward night. Dinner is more for the kind of people who can carry an interesting conversation for 1 to 3 hours. To me, that is just a challenge that I would rather avoid. You guys could try doing an activity where you two can share a common goal, like fishing, hiking, playing air hockey, cooking, so that way, you'll have something to talk about, and something to do incase things get awkward! Its full proof! Yes, I know it may seem bizarre to be playing pingpong for a first date, but think about it, what really is a first date? Who said it had to be romantic? To me, and probably a lot of you out there, the sexyiest thing your first date can do for you (and vise versa) is to make both of you have a good time, and what is more fun than a round of mini golf or riding rolorcoasters?
Also, one thing to put into consideration is the time limit. How long will this activity last? If its not very long will we have something to do after? An adverse date should last long enough so you can determine if you want to meet with this person again. It should take about 1-3 hours. Another thing to consider is how much talk time do you want? Dinner for a lot of talk time (Could get boring and awkward) or something like a movie (you can't talk during a movie any way, unless of course you wanted to be that one annoying couple who just won't shut the fuck up that ALWAYS happens to sit by me when ever I go to a movie , so there is 0 number of chances to tell if you like this person of not). I know this may seem unorthodox to people like myself who just want to sit in bed all day and watch netflix, but mildly physical activities can be really fun! In all honesty, I would never go jogging for the first date, partly because I can't even get up the three small steps to my front door without getting winded, and I'm not implying to do something like that, but what I am implying is to maybe go horse back riding, go to the fair, amusement park, go walk around the city, or have a waterballon fight. Something unique that can keep you guys busy and talking.
If you want more ideas for these unique dates, comment bellow and tell me some of your interests and your dates interest and i'll try to give you my best advise!
Thank you everyone and I really hope you two hit it off!
6/19/15