Opinions? {Help}

Heya,

So recently... About two days ago, I found out that I'm pregnant.

I'm sixteen and I know I'm ready for this but I feel that it's not wise to keep the baby. My boyfriend is a loving and caring boy who would do anything for me but I want to do the right thing by him and my family. I'm four months along and because i've always been a bit chubby It doesnt show but also no symptoms were shown. I'm scared and excited at the same time but I also want someone else's opinion on this. thanks guys :)

@Liv_For_Payne
Medically are you positive you're 4 months along? Like doctors approved. I've had an abortion before so, you're past that point but I can still talk to you about it.

You've got your whole life ahead of you so please really think about this decisiob. My sister had a baby 8 months ago and its changed her life so dramatically.

Message me if you want the support or just someone to talk to :) xx

@Liv_For_Payne
I'd suggest keeping it? My best friend was in a similar situation about a year ago and she had an abortion and it has scarred her in so many ways. (Plus it actually ended her relationship) and besides there's always adoption
feel free to message me if you ever want to talk

I had a kid at 17. Gave it up fot adoption. Ruined my life. At that age, I don't expect any guy to stick around. If its scary for us, imagine what they are going through.

At 4 months though, im pretty sure you've passed the stage abortion is legal. Or at least where I live. Think long and hard about this. It will change your life so dramatically. Its something you esessentially have to live with for the rest of your life.

Whatever you do, don't abort the baby. You're killing a living creature, one that's a part of you. Abortion has the power to scar someone, so I strongly suggest not doing it. If you don't want the baby, it's understandable... maybe adoption is a factor? Do your parents know?

@Liv_For_Payne

I think you're past the first trimester so abortion may be unsafe for your health and the baby's of course. My sister was a teen mom, and she still struggles with parenting today, but if you have a good support system, it shouldn't be extremely difficult. There's always adoption though, so I recommend talking to your parents if you haven't already told them to see if you're financially capable of raising a child. Taking care of a baby can be super expensive and requires you to make sacrifices. I hope this helps, but the choice is ultimately up to you. Good luck! Xx

Abortion is not killing a living being. Without a host, the foetus wouldn't come to term, thus be born and alive.

Think very hard about this. I'm the result of a teen pregnancy and have spent more time in foster care than with anything I'd consider family. I do resent my mother and whilst I am grateful for the people who have taken care of me, I do wish she had of thought of the repercussions better.

You have mentioned you want to do the right thing by your boyfriend and family. Think about how keeping this child will effect their lives as well. Don't gamble with such a life changing experience. You might think you're ready, but forcing something like this on others is completely unfair.

by the way; are you sure you're 4 months along? I mean... signs show after a month, when your period stops coming.

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Thank you all for your opinions they mean a lot from someone else, you all are really kind and I appreciate that sooo much so thank you and also, @trixxibell, yes i'm sure it's four months :) my doctor had told me past relatives had the same thing as to the symptoms, I found out at a doctors appointment when I had to get a blood test. Again thank you all muah

@Liv_For_Payne
No worries darlin' just wanted to make sure for your sake! :)
if you ever need to talk, as someone whose lived through it, let me know xxx

@Liv_For_Payne
i know how u feel i'm a monh pregnant and my bf died a month ago it hurts and i tried to kill myself a couple of nights ago you can do this and it will be the best descion u made keeping ur baby

@Liv_For_Payne
Stupid association, but... Have you watched Juno, the movie?
I totally understand you probably don't want to think of adoption, but it might offer some comfort.