I need some advice...

Okay, so here's the thing... I have a major crush on my best guy friend. We've been friends since Kindergarten and we go to Nine Inch Nails concerts together.

Let me explain why I like him: He's in a band; he plays bass and sings and writes the music. He knows about my mental illnesses and he's very supportive of me. He has read some of my fan fiction (even the smutty stuff) and he doesn't care. Even though we disagree on many things, I like that I can have an intelligent discussion with him. He's super cute and super talented and super tall. ;)

So here's the problem... he doesn't know I like him. And I have no idea if he likes me. We've hung out a couple times this summer and I'm growing impatient. I'm really stressing out because we have a Nine Inch Nails concert together on the 26th with two of his friends (I'll be the only girl). Now, a year ago, I had a crush on him also and I told him but he was "in love" with another girl. So I grew bitter and I told him flat out that I didn't like him anymore. That only lasted for a few months. He's had SO many girlfriends and I've never had a boyfriend--I haven't even had my first kiss yet!

I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

hmm....tough situation because it's so tricky. I do feel like you should bring it up as it's hard to keep it all bottled up. Sometimes it's better off knowing it right away rather than waiting forever.

I've had the same sort of experience but it's hard because you find yourself liking them when they're with their girlfriends. And i've never had a boyfriend either, so it's hard trying to figure out a sensible approach to it. In my perspective I think it's best to just take a deep breath and tell him. It seems hard, and i know I could beat around the bush telling you all these different approaches but in the end it's inevitable.



@DestroyShelbeyy

@DestroyShelbeyy
Don't worry it'll get better.

@DestroyShelbeyy
The fact you told him at one point that you didn't like him could work against you, but let's push aside negativity and think positively here.

My first suggestion would be to try and get him to confess first (and surprisingly it's actually easier than you think). Just drop the topic into conversation when he's least expecting or distracted - boys will pretty much blurt out anything before they stop to think about how it will effect people.

My next suggestion would be to not push it. Men are strange creatures; if somethings going to happen it will regardless of whether its planned, the two of you are ready, someone says something, etc etc.

You're young, I'm assuming carefree and have a lifetime ahead of you.

No need to stress :)

I'm actually going through the exact same thing right now, so I can definitely relate to how you feel. My best guy friend (aka, the guy I like) is pretty hung up on other girls. He likes my best friend, for God's sake!

My advice is to drop subtle hints in a conversation. Subtly bring up the topic of relationships and all that jazz, because he'll just blurt out whatever is on his mind, because boys have no filter WHATSOEVER. Plus, it'll give you a good idea of what he's looking for in a girl (don't change for him though, I have a feeling you have more self-respect than that).

Hope this helped!